Meeting New People On the First Day of Class
About two weeks ago I had my first day of school at the other college I take classes from. The day started out stressful because I couldn’t find a parking space despite getting there 50 minutes early. Eventually, I just ended up driving across the street and parking in the overflow lot.
I hurried to my class, and found the building right away, though I did have to ask someone where the room was. When I got there, there were some people waiting outside. I stood there with them for a bit too. Finally I decided to walk towards a girl and start talking to her. I asked if she was waiting for the Abnormal Psychology class to start. She said she was, and I asked whether she was taking it for a GE or for fun and talked about the crazy parking. It was difficult talking to her though. I was asking questions, but she wasn’t asking anything back, and she didn’t seem like she really wanted to talk or be friendly. It was a little frustrating. Then the door opened and people started filing in to the room.
I had noticed a girl who was standing by herself quietly, and had a hat on her head and seemed like an artistic person for some reason. I thought I could either keep trying to talk to this girl who wasn’t all that friendly and didn’t seem to want to be friends, or I could try talking to someone else. I decided to start over and talk to someone else. The seats were paired up so I took the seat near the back next to the artistic looking girl which was also nearby the other girl.
I got my textbook out (as it’s a good conversation starter) and put it on my desk. I thought of what I could say to the girl next to me to start a conversation. I felt a little self-conscious about trying to talk with the new girl while having the other girl right there who kind of brushed me off. But luckily, as I was thinking over my options, the artistic girl pointed to my book and asked, “How much did the book cost?”
Yes! She wants to start a conversation with me!
I smiled and said I got it off Amazon and went into that. I introduced myself too and offered my hand, and she said her name is Kim. (I quickly wrote her name down right away because I hate forgetting people’s names, and wrote my name in the top right corner of my notebook too so she could see it.) I asked her if she was taking the class for a GE and found out that she wants to major in psychology actually and loves it. I told her I love it too and am considering that and Sociology for a major. I also went into how I’m thinking about Occupational Therapy. We then talked about the parking and our schedules and what other classes we had, and she was really friendly and sweet. She asked me a lot of questions and I asked her questions back too. Often I feel like an interrogator the first time I meet someone because I ask more questions about them than I get asked in return, but this time I could tell she totally wanted to befriend me. We both enjoyed the class and liked the professor. We exchanged numbers and at the end she waited for me to gather my stuff and asked where my next class was. I said it was in the Liberal Arts building, and she said hers was too, so I said we should walk together. We did and talked and it was nice. She asked me if I like the cold and I said not really, and neither does she. We talked about the high schools we went to, and I said how I had played tennis matches against the tennis players at her school and they were a really good team, and she said she plays badminton. Then when we got to our class we parted ways and said we’d see each other Thursday. It was a great start to my day and it was so nice to meet someone so friendly and eager to know more about me.
Then I had Women’s US History 1877 – present. A lot of desks were already taken and I had to make a quick decision of where to sit, so I chose a seat next to a girl with her phone out. I try and pick random people to talk to and usually just pick a seat that’s going to put me around several people and go for it. She had a straight face and I couldn’t read if she’d want to talk to me or not, but I decided to ask “This is the women’s history class right?” and she smiled right away and said yeah it was and she wasn’t sure about that at first either. From there we talked a lot about the crazy parking, expensive bridge toll I have to pay each day, the parking fee, about other classes and teachers we had that we really liked. She was very outgoing and was very eager to talk to me. I’m glad I broke the ice and found that out. Her name is Priscilla. The teacher for the class seems awesome- she wore a black and white checkered skirt with tights, and a bright red and white blouse. The front bangs of her short hair are dyed blue too even though she’s probably a 40ish or so aged woman. I could tell I was going to like her already. She was nice too and was really into having us use creativity with our assignments.
Then I had US History before 1877. I went into the class and there weren’t many people there so I just took a random seat in the second row near the middle. Sometimes I like to leave it up to chance who will sit next to me instead of picking out someone to sit next to. Usually that works out ok. This time, it didn’t. Two girls who were already friends came in and started planning where they could sit so they could have their two guy friends sit nearby. They took the two seats in front of me, then had their guy friends sit behind them in the seats next to me. They were really loud and disrespectful, and reminded me of how some of the “popular” people in high school would act. They were putting their heads down and didn’t do the writing assignment, and when some people would speak up they would mock them quietly to each other. It was really irritating sitting next to them. I tried talking to the girl next to me a little, but she was kind of hard to talk to because I don’t think she knows much English. She seemed to kind of want to keep to herself too and didn’t seem interested in talking. The teacher was kind of monotone also, but he seems like a gentle spirit at least.
It was a great day overall though! It was nice meeting different people and breaking the ice with them.