Using Social Experiments to Break Out of Your Shell
I met Tyler in late May when he was starting up his own blog on overcoming shyness. When in one of my posts I mentioned that I was interested in teaching abroad, he sent me an email and told me he has been interested in that idea as well. We had talked before through comments on my site but this was when we really connected and found common ground. Here is his post on overcoming shyness.
Ladies and gentlemen, it’s time for… a guest post! In fact, it’s my first so I would very much like to thank Brittany for allowing me to put my thoughts onto her blog for all of you guys and gals to read. Hopefully it will help.
Get on with it Tyler!
Alrighty then, well I was shy for a very long time. I’d say I was shy from about 1st grade to my senior year of high school. Whenever I would talk to anyone who wasn’t in my immediate circle of friends, my face would get really red and I would have difficulty speaking. Finally one day, and I’m not making this up it actually happened, I was taking a shower and I thought to myself, “I don’t want this anymore, it has gotten seriously old.” So in my head I made it my mission senior year to break out of my shell. I called this mission “Operation Broken Silence.”
Now that I think about it it kind of sounds a little odd… Anyway, making this mission a success was not an overnight thing. It started with the new freshmen class. They didn’t know me and I didn’t know them, so this was the perfect opportunity to experiment socially with them. It was baby steps at the beginning of course. Just a simple hi here, maybe a joke there. Finally I was able to work my way into conversations. This boosted my self esteem as well as proved that I wouldn’t die from talking to somebody new. From this I was able to eventually have entire conversations with random strangers.
Probably my biggest achievement lately in the way of beating shyness was asking TV’s Jeff Corwin a question about human overpopulation in front a fairly large group of people. It was something else. Even though I was curious about the answer the main reason I asked is because of that old familiar feeling. The feeling that if you don’t go through with something you’ll be hitting yourself for a week. So I asked, the world kept turning, and I felt accomplished.
I want everyone to know that shyness isn’t something that you can just kick. It is something you have to constantly work at. The only way to get rid of it is to start trying. I’m not saying to go crazy and dance on a table in your favorite restaurant, unless you really want to that is. Just go up and say hi to someone and work your way up from there. That’s the whole thing that my blog is based around. I post ideas for social experiments that you can try at your own pace.
Well that’s probably all I should write on here for now. Good luck with your shell breaking everyone!
Thanks again for letting me guest post on your blog Brittany! You’re awesome!
To read more of Tyler’s posts and to read and maybe even participate in his shell break experiments, click here to visit his blog. He is a very cool guy who I know you will enjoy getting to know. He’s a self-described “language nut” who loves learning new languages and is eager to travel.