I tried calling my friend Brian last Tuesday night to try and catch up with him, but he didn’t answer. Brian moved to Colorado last summer and I miss him a lot, he’s truly a remarkable guy. He’s very enthusiastic, funny, and an all around great person. I’d only called him a few times after he moved though, and felt like I should call him again soon. I think the last time I’d talked to him was September, so I was nervous about calling and jotted down some ideas of things I could talk about if for some reason my mind went blank. Yes, admittedly I make those little lists of ideas a lot, and they can be helpful.
The next night the phone rang at 10pm, and I didn’t get to it in time. I saw that Brian had just called, and I hesitated about calling him back right then. I wondered if I should just wait until the next day, since I usually try to go to bed at around 10pm. I knew we’d probably be talking for a while, since the previous phone conversations I’d had with him had lasted 3 hours on average, a time remarkably long for me.
But I decided heck with it (I’m noticing I’m deciding this more often now) and called him back. I smiled as the phone was ringing, and didn’t feel an ounce of nervousness in me, strangely enough. (I guess it really does help to press send right away before I can start thinking about what I’m doing too much. )
I heard the phone ringing several times, and I almost thought I might get the message machine, when I heard that familiar enthusiastic tone exclaim “Brittany!” My smile got even bigger and I said “Hey Brian!” He said he got my message last night after work at around 1am so he didn’t want to wake me up and call me back then. He asked me what I had been up to tonight, and I told him I’d gotten back from my psychology class about an hour ago. I told him that the class was going well and about the two friends I’d made, Patricia and Rose. I even told him the whole story of how I started conversations with them when it was dead silent. I made the story humorous and he was laughing at my descriptions of how it was so quiet in the room that I felt conscious of my breathing.
He told me all about how his latest job was going. We also talked about Colorado and his life there. Being in a different state away from all his friends has actually been a good growing experience for him.
I told him about my choice of community college, and he explained his college journey again to me, which I’d sort of forgotten. Before he had been encouraging me to go straight to a 4 year school because of the experience, but now he was realizing that in a way he’d been a transfer student himself and he still had a lot of fun. He said he understands better now and thinks I’m making a good decision.
We also talked about travelling and exploring the world, and we got excited thinking about it. I told him how I really wanted to travel outside the US and experience a new culture, because I think there’s a lot to be learned from other cultures.
Before I knew it, it was midnight, and we had been talking for 2 hours. I felt a swollen lump on the side of my throat and my arm was numb from holding the phone up to my ear for so long. I enjoyed talking to him so much that I didn’t want to stop, but I finally said I had to get going, and that it was really nice talking to him. He said it was good talking to me too, and we agreed that we should stay in better touch. We said goodnight, and after I hung up I smiled and realized that I hadn’t even looked at that list I’d written out earlier. 🙂